From the article: "Me Time" for Single Parents
Finding me time is a huge challenge for many single parents. Let our readers know how you carve out "me time" for yourself by sharing your tips and experiences. Responses may be tips you employ regularly, or sporadically. And remember, even "baby steps" toward taking care of yourself are important! Share Your Tips
- Well, just now I've had more "me time". My son started high school and the now almost 16 year old girl that I took in is a junior. I just quit my 45-50 hour a week teaching job. I didn't make enough then anyways to never be home for my kids & I would alway get home to exhausted. Now, I enjoy seeing them off to school, and most importantly being here when they return and making sure homework gets done. I take care of me by finally taking the time to take Zumba classes, exercise, eat better, drink more water & really enjoy my cup of coffee in the morning. I love the quietness of my house all day. I want to sit & write stories. I crave to stay creative & find other ways to make money than to get stuck in a 40-50 hour a week job. Teaching was wonderful, but my kids are more important & college is right around the corner. I don't want them to mess up in these teenager years. So, I hope & pray that I can find a way to make this work. Mistakes at these years can change the college dreams.
- —Guest Lizelda
- Great tips. I've incorporated a few, particularly getting up earlier and taking a walk during lunch. It makes a big difference in how I respond to challenges throughout the day. When I'm cooking and need to occupy my 3-year-old I give her play pots and pans and seat her just outside the kitchen and she enjoys cooking alongside mommy...
- —Guest Georgia
- I have been a single parent for 15 years so I have really learned how to schedule "mommy time." I get up early during the week so I can take a nice long shower. My girls know if they wake up early not to knock on the door unless it is an emergency. I also will take the long way to work at least twice a week just to clear my head and think. Early bed time is my time to read a book or magazine. We try to get chores done during the week so I can have 2 Saturday evenings a month for "me." Sometimes this involves just relaxing on the couch with a glass of wine and a movie, going out to dinner with a friend,or going to the mall to buy something for me. As long as I promise "game time" My girls are ok with my "Me time." We have also set up the family room in the basement. I don't hear a peep from the kids when they go down to play. My 7 yr old has severe separation anxiety so this was very hard at first, but her sisters, and Barbie have made it easier for me!
- —Guest Scorpio3
- I have found that the best way to obtain "Mommy Time" is to allow my girls to each have a friend over for the night. This technique allows the kids to occupy themselves without mommy feeling guilty for anything. It is a win-win situation. But this is something that you should plan ahead of time. Make sure you have snacks and recreations to keep them busy with each other. When I allow my 9-year-old old and 5-year-old this opportunity, most of the time they play the whole time and I never hear a peep out of them the whole time their friends are over. This gives me some major relaxation time or allows me to catch up on deep cleaning and laundry!