When and How We Had the Sex Talk
I have always talked to my son, who is now 16, about his body and about sex. I started when he could understand the difference between me and him, at around age 2. I have never referred to touches as good or bad, because even the bad ones feel good (even though they are bad and wrong). I have learned that the best times to talk about things is during the time that he and I are watching a movie, listening to that horrible stuff they call music (LOL), or having breakfast - when it's just me and him and noone else.
How the Sex Talk Went
Beleive it or not, it is really easy once you let them know that you are just as uncomfortable having the sex talk as they about listening and asking questions. He has asked some very important and embarrassing questions! We laughed a lot and I got a lot of, "That is gross!" and "I am never doing that!" We made a pact that when he wants to know anything, he comes to me first; and if I don't know, I am to be honest and we will look it up together. I have even learned some things I didnt know. LOL!!!!!
Advice
- Be open to anything and everything.
- Let them know that just becasue you either get upset or seem shocked, it just means you need some time to get used to the idea or that you are uncomfortable - but that you're willing to go as deep as they want to.
- ALWAYS BE HONEST!!!!! If you don't know, say so and research it with them.
- I have also learned to share my own sexual experiences, never the physical but the emotional, and how I felt (the awkwardness and the embarrassment)
- Trust me - your opinion and what you say matters. THEY DO LISTEN!!!!!
