On the twelfth day of Christmas,
I gave a gift to me:
Twelve minutes free
Eleven dollars saved
Ten positive thoughts
Nine chores completed
Eight friends assisting
Seven hours sleeping
Six forum comrades
Five "Thanks, but no thanks,"
Four helpful kids
Three best friends,
Two great big hugs,
And an evening out just for me.
When was the last time you ignored everything on your "To Do" list and just allowed yourself sit down and relax? I don't mean sitting down to watch TV, either, because--let's face it--TV time is often multi-tasking time. In between glances at the television, we're often folding laundry, writing grocery lists, etc.
No, when was the last time that you did nothing? On the surface, it might seem like a wasteful indulgence, but allowing yourself to just be for a few minutes each day will put you back in touch with you. Who you really are, how you want to parent, and where you want to go in life.
Especially if you're just getting over a loss or disappointment, spending a few minutes in solitude each day can help you stay grounded. Whether you spend the time sipping a cup of coffee, staring out at the stars in the sky, or just breathing, stealing a few minutes for yourself on a daily basis can completely change how you respond to stress--from last-minute demands for your time, to dealing with petty arguments between your kids, to finding out that your child support check is going to be late again.
Try it and see. You might find that the payoff in reduced stress is well worth the investment of just twelve minutes a day.