When you write a letter to a child, it's magical! It communicates love, pride, and commitment beyond the power of everyday spoken words. So make writing a letter to your child an annual event, either on their birthdays or around the holidays. To your son or daughter, it will be more than just another tradition -- each letter is a tangible expression of your love and pride, combined with the hopes and dreams you have for the future.
Not sure how to get stated? Here are eight specific words to include when you write a letter to a child:
Of course you want to tell your child how you feel! Even if "I love you" is something you say every day, the message is conveyed differently when the words are shared in writing. For example, you might say:
When writing a letter to your child, share what you've noticed recently about him or her. How has she grown? What positive characteristics do you see emerging? For example:
Describe what you enjoy doing together. This will mean a lot to your child, and it will help put the letter into context when he or she reads it again in the years to come. For example:
4. "Proud"Be specific when you describe what makes you proud. This is something we all long to hear, and the words will be like nourishment to your child when he or she re-reads the letter years from now. For example, you might express pride in your child's:
- Interpersonal relationships
- Academic progress and/or work ethic
- Athletic abilities and/or various talents
In each letter to your child, share a few memories that mean a lot to you personally. Your stories will communicate truth in a way that's more memorable to your child than any singular compliment. For example, you might include:
- Memories of a shared vacation
- An observation you'll never forget
- The memory of a time when you realized your child had grown in some way
6. "Hope"In addition, take the time to share your highest hopes in your letter. For example, you might include:
- Your hopes for your child's friendships
- Your hopes for your child's own observations of his or her talents
- Your hopes regarding his or her own dreams
This is an opportunity to share your confidence in your child, as well as the beliefs that continue to motivate you personally. For example, you might include the following when writing a letter to a child:
- Your own convictions about his or her future.
- A Bible verse that speaks to this time in his or her life.
- A quotation that has touched you personally.
This word is a little tricky because you should only use if it you really mean it! As long as you stick to what you can truly commit to, using "I promise" statements can convey your dedication in a way that's evident to your kids. For example:
- I promise to love you always.
- I promise to always listen to what you have to say.
- I can't wait to see your game next week, and I promise I'll be there!