A well-written parenting plan should be one of the most effective co-parenting tools at your disposal. But making your written arrangement work optimally for your family, in the real world, still takes a lot of effort.
Here, share what has worked well for your family in making your parenting plan work.
I wish my plan covered these items.
- As a re-married man, I now have to to deal with TWO parenting plans--my own and my wife's. We've learned a lot from each other and put up a website with our tips and sample text (http://www.divorcedparentacademy.com/).
- —Guest Alan
- Initially, it’s normal for the custodial parent not to have a lawyer present, and the non-custodial to have a lawyer to file for the parenting plan. That’s not a bad thing, because the custodial rights come first since they are the child’s main provider. For a custodial parent, I would suggest agreeing to a plan that is best for the needs of the child, and requesting the other party’s lawyer get it ordered by the court. (Save your money and make the other lawyer do it all.) Also request that the child support order has been set in motion. If you’re a non-custodial parent you have rights - and most of you are fathers. It is important to document each time the other parent is not abiding by the order. I would suggest filing police reports, when needed. Collectively, those can be presented to the judge if a parent has consistently failed to comply. It’s best to try to reach situational agreements but more importantly stick to what you have agreed upon.
- —Guest L. Renee
Check it Twice
- My best advice is to double, or even triple, check the parenting plan before signing it (especially if he/she has a lawyer and you are representing yourself) to make sure that everything is correct and that you agree with it. As the custodial parent, you always have room to dispute what you don't agree with when you can back it up! The next best piece of advice is to keep the court ordered parenting plan handy. My daughter's father frequently has "selective memory failure" when it comes to certain items listed in the plan as to what he was to do! But I come to the rescue and show him that it's all in writing on the paper & not the wall!