Readers Respond: Share Your Experiences Using eHarmony For Online Dating

Responses: 7

Potential users of eHarmony want to know whether the service is worth the money, or whether it's a just a waste of time. If you've used eHarmony, take a moment to share your experiences with our readers.

_{Please Note: The opinions expressed on this page represent individual user's personal experiences, and are not necessarily representative of the views of the About.com Guide to Single Parents. If you have had a different experience with this company, either positive or negative, please share your thoughts with us by completing the form below.}

EHarmony

I joined eHarmony for a 3 month period and have found it to be a complete waste of time. Very few people post photos, and all of my matches lived miles away. I tried to contact a few people but never had any response at all. You don't get to know much about a person on first glance, despite the number of questions you are asked to answer. In my opinion, it is a complete waste of money.

—Guest Selina

eHarmony Was Not for Me

eHarmony was a waste of my money. I never even wanted to go on one date. I've heard it works for some people, but I felt handicapped by not being able to search for or find anyone myself and instead having to rely on the eHarmony elves to find someone for me... In the end, it was a big mistake for me.

—Guest d.d.

People on E Harmony are serious

In my experience, the people on eHarmony are serious about finding a relationship. However, eHarmony does match you with people who have been inactive for months - to me, that does not count as a match. I spoke with them and they have no intention of weeding out the inactive ones. I also wish their matching criteria was a bit more detailed - for example I will date matches with children at home, as long as they are teenagers or older. That is not an option, so I invest time with answering & sending questions, only to have to close the match when we are able to freely communicate, which is not fair to either one of us.

—Guest cadiebell

My Experience with eHarmony

The quality of dating candidates I was given was much higher than with the name brand sites, but the selection was so abysmal, that none were worth pursuing. Many of my friends had the same experience, and for those of us not desperate to remarry, eHarmony is not worth the effort. When you're a single mom, your free time is so precious, you don't want to waste it on a nonstarter or some guy looking for a replacement wife, no matter how nice he may be.

—Guest Single Mom in California

You Get What You Pay For eHarmony

Although E-Harmony is the most expensive on-line dating website, the price is definitely worth it. It eliminates the seedy element of a date that many are not looking for, and it can also help you define the qualities you are looking for in a mate, regardless to whether you date them on-line or in-person. If on-line dating is for you, I would definitely recommend it over the over sites. In this case, it's worth it to go with the name brand.

—Guest Guest in Texas

My eHarmony Experience

I did not have a positive experience with eHarmony. I found that they're so good at keeping possible scammers at bay that it was hard to actually contact anyone I was interested in! I would not recommend this service. Because the people I was "matched up with" never sent back their answers to eHarmony's questions, there was never any real contact with anyone. It turned out to be a waste of time for me personally. They still send me names of guys who are trying to contact me, but I got tired of sending questions that never got answered, so I have discontinued the service. I do appreciate that they're so strict with potential scammers, but it turned out to be so strict that I had little or no contact with actual members!

—Guest Single Mom in Houston, TX

My eHarmony Experience

Just based on my own experience, I think people who use eHarmony are pretty serious about really meeting someone special. My experiences there have all been very positive. In fact, I haven't had any complaints. I have also recommended eHarmony to my friends, and they have tried it, too. eHarmony is one of the more expensive online dating sites, but it's probably the only one that focuses on people who are serious. I never had any unfavorable "freaks" or "creeps" messaging me. Also, due to the price, you are probably not going to find those kinds of people using eHarmony. So I'd recommend eHarmony for people who are serious about finding someone special.

—Guest R.R.