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Readers Respond: How to Handle Parent and Child Visitation Issues

Responses: 4


Child visitation is supposed to be a time that both the parent and child look forward to, but there may be times when your child is reluctant and may even refuse to participate in visitation. Find out how to best handle this situation with these real-life child visitation stories.

Violation of Visitation Rights

My visitation rights have been violated for two and a half years. My son's dad won't let me take him, and he has no reason for this. I can't get legal help because of my finances, and I've been ordered to pay child support. Meanwhile, I am a single mother caring for three children on my own. Life is so unfair!
—Guest Cgirl

Michigan Laws Concerning Visitation

Debrina wrote that if child refuses visit, the custodial doesn't have to let child visit. MI law differs from this. The law states that refusal is not valid excuse. I do not, however, know what the law says can be done about it. I hear that forcing child to come is not allowed, but I have no idea to the truth of it. I don't want to have to force my child, but if I have the right, I will. The custodial parent doesn't do anything about the child refusing. In situations where both parents live together and the child disrespects one of the parents, the other parent should discipline the child and have him or her apologize and reconcile with the other parent. As ex's, we should show the same respect for one another!
—Guest Ian

Older Kids Should Decide For Themselves

My girls (10 and 14) hate visitation with their father, who is selfish, continually unemployed, doesn't support them, and when they are together he puts his needs ahead of theirs and isn't responsible. For example, he skips their lunches because he "forgot" or was "busy," doesn't supervise the 10-year-old or acknowledge that she has a mild disability, has neglected their meds in the past, and once made the older one care for the younger one who was vomiting because he had guests. Why should they be forced to see him? I am in process of changing the visitation order so he has no more overnights. After that, I am sure that high school events will take precedence over visitation for my 14-year-old, and middle school activities will cause the visitations to dwindle for the younger one. In my opinion, the courts shouldn't force this on kids who are capable of speaking for themselves.

I Send Them Anyway

My kids sometimes act like they don't want to go for visits with my ex, but I encourage them to do it anyway. I know they're safe there, so that's not an issue, and if the tables were turned, I wouldn't want him to let the kids opt out of seeing me. When they're older, maybe it will be a different story, but for now we stick to the schedule.
—Guest C. Burnes

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