The ages of my kids:
I have two children. My oldest is 13, and my youngest is 6.
My house rules are:
- Don't run in the house.
- Behave at all times.
- Eat at the table.
- All drinks are to be put somewhere safe (i.e the kitchen or dining room table).
- Do not cut across when other people are talking.
- Always say please and thank you.
- Listen to your parents at all times.
- Put your toys away when you're finished playing with them.
- Obey these rules or there will be a punishment (i.e. grounded/naughty step).
- Do not hit or shout at all.
Typical consequences for breaking my house rules:
- First offense, they're grounded for a week. If the child breaks the rule again, then that child will be grounded for two weeks, and so on, for the oldest.
- Go on the naughty step (a minute for her age; i.e 6 = 6 minutes).
- Go to bed 30 minutes or one hour earlier.
- No chocolate, sweets etc. to be had for two days.
- All the privileged items in their rooms are taken out (i.e., Nintendo, TV, mobile phone, make-up, etc.)
The consequence I found best was when I grounded my 13-year-old. She doesn't misbehave much anymore. Also, I find that taking all privileges away is good as well because my teen loves her mobile phone and her make-up, so she doesn't misbehave.
With my 6-year-old I feel the no chocolates, sweets, etc. consequence works well because she is a chocoholic. The naughty step works, too!
- Talk to them in a clear way.
- Make sure you give them set times to eat food, as well as times for going to bed and waking up.
- Make sure that they apologize to you for misbehaving.
- Make sure they know the consequences.
- Ask them to tell you all the rules so you now that they know the rules.