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Prepare for an Upcoming Child Custody Hearing

Win Child Custody By Planning Ahead and Presenting the Best Case


Going to your first child custody hearing can be scary, especially for parents who are unfamiliar with the child custody process. However, with some advance planning, you can present a convincing case and win child custody.  In addition to working closely with your child custody lawyer, use the following resources to prepare for your case:

1. Understand the Child Custody Laws in Your State

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Child custody laws vary from state to state.  Therefore, one of the first things you need to do is become familiar with the child custody laws in your state.  Reading the fine print can be tedious, but it will help you to find out for yourself what you're up against before attending your child custody hearing.

2. Understand the Better Parent Standard

The better parent standard is difficult to prove.  Find out what the court is looking for and how to show yourself to be the best caregiver for your children.

3. Bring the Right Documents to Court

Work with your lawyer to determine which documents you'll need to being to your child custody hearing and whether your own personal records will be admissible.

4. Learn Proper Courtroom Etiquette

Parents who hope to win child custody must behave appropriately in court or risk losing the child custody hearing.  Role play with your child custody lawyer in advance, if possible, and make sure that you understand proper courtroom etiquette prior to your appearance in court.

5. Know What to Expect During Your Child Custody Hearing

Child custody hearings tend to be less adversarial or combative than other types of court cases. Parents seeking to win child custody should know what to expect in advance so that they can best be prepared and anticipate each step of the process.

6. How to Dress for Your Child Custody Hearing

Finally, parents who hope to win child custody should prepare to make a positive first impression. Proper courtroom dress must never be overlooked.  Talk with your lawyer about what to wear and make sure that you present yourself in the very best light at your child custody hearing.

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