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5 Tips for Divorcing Parents

How Divorcing Parents Can Best Help Their Kids Through the Transition


Divorcing parents need to work together for the good of their children. Here are five key things to do right away to help your children through the changes your divorce will bring.

1. Work Together to Decide How to Tell Your Kids About the Divorce

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As divorcing parents, you need to be on the same page about what you plan to tell your children. As hard as it might be right now to imagine having this conversation together, it's imperative that you decide exactly what details to share before you sit down and tell the kids.

Read: How to Tell Your Children About Your Divorce

2. Decide When You're Going to Tell Your Children About the Divorce

It may seem like there's never going to be a "good time" to tell your children about the divorce. However, it's important to be sensitive to your kids' needs and schedules and to choose a time when you'll each be able to process the information before sharing it with extended family members, friends, and teachers.

Read: When to Tell Your Children About Your Divorce

3. Anticipate the Questions Your Kids Will Ask

Being able to provide concrete information will ease your kids' anxieties and help them to begin to envision what your lives will be like once the divorce is finalized.

Read: 24 Questions Kids Ask Divorcing Parents

4. Learn About the Effects of Divorce on Children

Divorce impacts children differently according to their ages and their understanding of what is happening. Make sure that you're prepared in advance by learning about the effects of divorce on children at every stage, from infancy through the teenage years.

Read: Know the Effects of Divorce on Children

5. Commit to Helping Your Children Adjust to the Divorce

Like it or not, as divorcing parents, you're a team. Your children will need the love and presence of both of you as they adjust to what will eventually become a "new normal." Make a commitment from the beginning to be there for them and to work together on their behalf.

Read: 5 Ways to Help Your Kids Manage the Effects of Divorce

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