In terms of self-esteem, like a good relationship, it cannot be bought. Self-esteem is also a by-product, most notably, of a good parent-child relationship. Those parents who concentrate on developing a good relationship with their kids through spending time, not money, tend to have kids with better self-esteem. These kids learn that they must be of value; otherwise, their parents wouldn’t spend so much time with them. They also learn that it is the relationship that matters, not the purchases.
If you feel that spending quality time with your child costs money, take a good look. It may be that you are building your relationship on the basis of purchases. Your child may even be fueling that fire by making you feel guilty for not buying them things. Know that if you give in, then for sure, you will only be valued for what you bring.
Instead of bringing "things," continue to bring yourself, and let that be joyful, entertaining and caring. Spend time with your kids listening to on another and doing things together.
Remember, when you tell a baby "cootchy-coo," he looks at you. Buy him a toy and he looks at the toy. Ask yourself, "Do I want my child to have a relationship with me or the toy?"
Now get on the floor and play. That's real quality time.
