Frustrated that your ex isn't hearing you when you speak? Consider whether you need to streamline your messaging by communicating less often and sticking to the topics that are most important to you. In other words, pick your battles!
Try this exercise: Divide a piece of paper into three columns.
- In the first column, write down the topics that you must discuss with your ex. Stick to the messages that are most important, like schedules and safety or medical issues.
- In the second column, write down the things you'd like to discuss that are important but not essential.
- In the third column, write down the things that would be nice to talk about, but that aren't truly important to you or to your kids' well-being.
The results? The topics that appear in the third column are things you can let go of or talk about less, and the topics in the second column are topics that are best discussed under optimal conditions (so consider your timing before bringing them up).
Remember, too, that you don't want to create a situation where you have to walk on eggshells with your ex. But at the same time, consider how communicating less often -- and focusing on topics that are essential -- could actually improve communication with your ex and help the most important messages sink in.
Try it this week and leave a comment below to share your experience!
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