Many women learn that they're going to become single moms through the surprise of missing a monthly period or seeing the little blue line show up on a pregnancy test.
There are other single moms, though, who entered -- or are perhaps right now thinking of entering -- motherhood through artificial insemination, in vitro fertilization, or adoption. We commonly refer to these moms as "single mothers by choice" or "choice moms."
Typically, these moms have ample opportunity to reflect on the impact of bringing a child into their lives, carefully weighing the pros and cons of their decision. Imagine that a co-worker or friend approached you tomorrow and said, "I know you're a single mom. Do you mind if I ask you some questions? I'm thinking of adopting a child. Can you tell me what to expect or what questions I should ask before becoming a single mother by choice?"
What would your reaction be? And what advice would you have for her? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.
I gave the matter some thought, too, and developed a set of 10 Questions to Explore Before Becoming a Single Mother by Choice, to support and encourage women in the process of weighing this life-changing decision.