One quote that stood out to me when I watched last week's episode of Must Love Kids was when Vanessa said she would never date someone her kids didn't like. I think that's a pretty common sentiment. How about you? Have you ever found yourself in that position?
Interestingly, Bonny Albo, About.com's Guide to Dating, just forwarded a question to me from one of her readers, and it deals with this very issue. Here's the question:
I am 33 years old, I and have two kids, ages 6 and 9. My 6-year-old adores the man I'm dating, but my 9-year-old dislikes my boyfriend and is adamantly against him. This concerns me a great deal. We have been dating for almost three years, and this problem has become a big roadblock in our relationship. In addition, my boyfriend has said to me point blank that I need to change my 9-year-old's behavior before he will consider taking things "to the next level." What should I do?
What would you tell her? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.Personally, I didn't think the issue was that cut-and-dry. In my response to My Child Dislikes My Boyfriend, I asked the reader whether her child could be picking up on something about her boyfriend that she just doesn't see yet, or whether her son is rebelling against the idea of mom dating anyone at all. If it were me, those answers would strongly influence what I would do next.